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Be a good friend. When your friend leaves an abusive relationship, delete/unfollow/unfriend their abuser. Don’t give them anymore activity. When they leave, leave with them. Be their support system. You cannot be neutral when someone was abused. 

Dear ‘sister’ who is currently HOUSING my abusive ex boyfriend

this goes for abusive friends too. you know who you are, people who actually don’t look at my tumblr and aren’t paying attention.

BPD symptoms and traits/characteristics

kellyann-graceful-warrior:

I recently got asked in anon what the traits/characteristics are in BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder/Emotional Regulation Disorder)
So I decided to make a post instead. I think will be good awareness. Here are the 9 main symptoms:

1. Frantic efforts to avoid, extreme fears, or certain behavior and feelings related to the extreme fear of abandonment, rejection, and/or perceived criticism.

2. Switching between idealization and devaluation of others/splitting

3. Identity disturbance- poor self image, self esteem, uncertainty, self hatred, etc

4. Impulsive behavior that is often self damaging and as an attempt to relieve pain and intense emotions- spending sprees, recklessly drive, binge eat, have promiscuous sex, destroy property, steal, cause fights, take unnecessary risks, substance abuse, etc.
 
5. Reoccurring suicidal behavior/ideations, threats, gestures, self-harm behavior

6. Rapid cycles of emotions/shifting (from dysregulation)

7. Chronic feelings of emptiness and inadequacy, depressive symptoms

8. Intense anger and/or aggression, difficult to control- acting out and/or acting in

9. Stress/anxiety relates paranoia, dissociation, and psychosis (hallucinations, delusions, catatonia, disordered thinking)

And then even in those there are more than one symptoms. Those are just groups. All depends on how you count it. I usually do separately and explain each one… but I won’t this time.

Then there are HUNDREDS of other symptoms and traits/characteristics, so I’m just stating some of them!! =p Lots of ways to recognize this very complex, and unfortunately highly stigmatized and misunderstood chronic mental disorder of emotional dysregulation+hypersensitivity affecting everything from reactions, thoughts, perceptions, functioning, beliefs, feelings, and many things through everyday life- such as the ability to process things..
One with the disorder may display some or most of these symptoms and/or traits/characteristics, but nothing guaranteed as each person with the disorder is an individual and some may not have the same symptoms as others, as well as it being important not to assume any of these as they are rather a guideline to mental health workers because they are often seen and developed from the disorder and symptoms.

Others without it can obviously display or relate to some of the characteristics and symptoms from time to time, but the reasoning, cause, severity, and pattern is different and developed. Please note it’s completely different than that.

(Some of these are symptoms, some of these are traits/characteristics developed from the disorder and symptoms/a response of.)

10. Anxiety

11. Headaches/migraines are common

12. Seizures (lots believe to be related to epilepsy cause of emotional parts of the brain going erratic/rapid and firing off.)

13. Higher nociception (pain tolerence) brain less responsive to pain

14. Distorted eating patterns

15. Obsessive compulsive features (obsessive thinking, instrusive thoughts, “obsessions”, repetition behavior, etc)

16. Attachment (Related to ^)

17. Extreme apathy, boredom, dullness

18. Extreme recklessness

19. Baiting

20. Unstable Relationships as a result

21. “Always” and “Never” statements/relations (related to splitting)

22. Sleep deprivation

23. Childlike aspects-voice changing

24. Childlike aspects-“acting out”

25. Childlike aspects-curiosity

26. Child like aspects- dependency

27. Sarcasm

28. Promiscuity

29. Mimicking/mirroring

30. Flashbacks

31.
Nightmares  

32. Difficulty processing information

33. Difficulty focusing/poor attention span

34. Consistent change of appearance

35. Certain feelings of fear, negativity, or rejection of authority/people of “high importance” in their mind.

36. Alluring/seductive behavior

37. Extreme need for acceptance

38. “Needing to prove themselves over and over again to others and/or themselves” as the past doesn’t matter, identity is graded on what was done the very day.

39. Self discipline/work orientation as a result of OCD features

40. High IQ/intelligence

41. Creative thinking 

42. Studies show able to read others easily from such hypersensitivity, however, often mistaking neutrality as anger probably as a result of symptoms

43. Isolation

44. Defensive

45. Magical thinking

46. Fantasizing

47. Panic attacks

48. Anxiety Attacks

49. Hypersensitivity to caffeine, alcohol, some sugars and foods. Often described as being “allergic” to such things as it causes reactions from hypersensitivity and symptoms.

50. Memory lapses- may be a result of dissociation and/or perception, etc

51. Extreme perfectionism

52. Avoidance

53. Euphoric reactions

54. Detachment

55.
Avoidance of eye contact

56. Difficulty transitioning plans, activities, shifts

57. Trouble with awareness

58. Sensitivity to other things and senses- light, sounds, temperatures, etc- from hypersensitivity 

59. Resistance

60. Difficulty with decision making 

61. Difficulty completing tasks 

62. “Rapid” speech

63. Studies have shown that during a menstrual cycle with BPD, hormones are affected more than others, leading to more vulnerabilities to symptoms 

Ok I’ll stop- so basically mix up a ton of mental disorders, some neurological disorders, and add a lot of special touches. See a break down of this here.

I have had a few people ask ME this, so … here is your answer. Please do not use anything other than the first nine if you’re considering self-diagnostics, the latter are traits of many disorders and are not definitively assignable to BPD; while any combination of them are frequent they are not differentializing and could be indicative of any number of wildly varying conditions.

now reblogged not as a link

, #psych stuff
stardust-rain:

dollygale:

brandx:

dorianthewellendowed:

jimmyfury:

zarabithia:

queerhawkeye:

beanarie:

Yeeeees? And?

I’m taking this as a compliment to Elementary.

LOL.
Not Featuring A Dude Who Makes Rape Jokes is `100% a compliment.

Not mayo on white bread.


#Not a show where women are punchlines?#Not a show where women are reduced to sexy plot devices or bitches?#Not a show with only 1 poc regular cast member despite the series taking place in one of the most culturally diverse cities#in the english speaking world?#OH NO#OH GOSH HOW TERRIBLE.


Not a show helmed by a dude so racist he regurgitates Yellow Peril conspiracy theories circa 1898.
Not a show that reduces WOC to antagonistic shrews/wilting lotus flowers but rather casts a WOC in the lead to totally pwn a white British supervillain that tries to reduce her to a ‘mascot’
Not a show that constantly queerbaits its viewers and mocks them for daring to interpret the characters as anything other than cishet men.

a show featuring 100% canon trans and gay characters that handles them like real human beings a show that turns misogynistic tropes on their heads a show that calls its white male protagonists out on his shita show with an adaptation of sherlock who praises women a show with flawless writing that showcases how women actually actdo i really need to go on

not a show that features orientalist ~chinese music~ every time joan watson is on screen
not a show that fetishizes lesbian women and has them fall for the straight white man

stardust-rain:

dollygale:

brandx:

dorianthewellendowed:

jimmyfury:

zarabithia:

queerhawkeye:

beanarie:

Yeeeees? And?

I’m taking this as a compliment to Elementary.

LOL.

Not Featuring A Dude Who Makes Rape Jokes is `100% a compliment.

Not mayo on white bread.

Not a show helmed by a dude so racist he regurgitates Yellow Peril conspiracy theories circa 1898.

Not a show that reduces WOC to antagonistic shrews/wilting lotus flowers but rather casts a WOC in the lead to totally pwn a white British supervillain that tries to reduce her to a ‘mascot’

Not a show that constantly queerbaits its viewers and mocks them for daring to interpret the characters as anything other than cishet men.

a show featuring 100% canon trans and gay characters that handles them like real human beings
a show that turns misogynistic tropes on their heads
a show that calls its white male protagonists out on his shit
a show with an adaptation of sherlock who praises women
a show with flawless writing that showcases how women actually act
do i really need to go on

not a show that features orientalist ~chinese music~ every time joan watson is on screen

not a show that fetishizes lesbian women and has them fall for the straight white man

(Source: winston5mith)

hazeymarie:

For something called an “invisible disease”, whatever my special blend of depression/anxiety is sure has a lot of physical manifestations.

Anyone who tries to tell you depression and anxiety don’t have a serious impact on physical health is an idiot. An idiot who has no true authority  to make that call as they are not a) you, b) a psychologist.

Know how I know that?

Physical manifestations are in the diagnostic criteria for both.

harvestfaery:

the cook samples the food.

"no" they say, "it is not ready yet. it needs something else. a spice, perhaps, which does not yet exist."

Coming this winter, The Land Before Thyme

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queendread:

I have ONE key left for the Dragon Age Keep beta, and I’d like one of my lovely followers to have it.

Since I got involved with the beta it’s improved hugely and I’m really excited for it to be released to the general public, but until then one of you gets a sneak peek! All…

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